I need an opinion or two....

[charlie (ky)]

I have mentioned my little neighbor friend , who's mom is single with three kids.
She is driving on tires that has the steel belt showing thru. She has told Bev that she just doesn't have the money to replace right now.
I have suggested to Beverly she approach her and, in a girl friend sort of way,say,, "we usually donate a hundred dollars to an organization for Christmas. I hope it wouldn't offend you if we offered to buy a couple tires for you car. "
We kind of feel like we shouldn't get involved in such a personal matter. I don't want her to feel obligated to us in any way , or do I want her to start to depend on us when things go bad. I think she makes enough money that she shouldn't be in this situation, but just doesn't budget her money.

 

[Craig in Alabama]

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[Elson(La)]

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[Magyar]

neighbor last year who stopped over for coffee and asked if I could lend her $100.00....which I did , and for which she payed me back each week in the amount that we had decided upon. Problem is that a few weeks later she again asked to borrow another $100.00...again I helped her out because she did pay it back as promised.

She is a kiind, friendly neighbor, butttttttttttttt...................

when a knock at the door brought the 3rd request for a loan, I began to feel like the neighborhood banker so I had to tell her "I' m sorry , but I can no longer lend out any more money."..It was a bit awkward, but I did not want to get into the lending business any further .

Just my $0.02 of advice

Magz

 

[Ed SW Fla]

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[Jigflipper]

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[Vernon in Virginia~Formerly Alaska]

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[Vernon in Virginia~Formerly Alaska]

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[Vernon in Virginia~Formerly Alaska]

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[Craig in Alabama]

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[Magyar]

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[Magyar]

that he had hid them....because they are worth a lot of money. He also said that he should get a "piece of the pie" because this video is all over the internet and TV stations!

 

[RustyNTX]

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[Vernon in Virginia~Formerly Alaska]

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[Vernon in Virginia~Formerly Alaska]

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[Steve O]

He keeps it up, he'll be able to open a shoe store.

Those tires are going to blow sooner or later. I'd say get the tires for her and for her to pay you back in installments, with zero interest. The mom won't be any good for her kids if she's injured or if a child gets hurt her troubles will expand.... If she refuses the offer, you tried. Can her ex help?

 

[Butch in Colorado]

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[Jim West Pa]

You could also talk it over with your Pastor.
Ask him to have a Deacon contact them and offer to buy the tires for her.
If she agrees you can put up the money.
They know how to handle these situations with grace.

 

[General Ray]

right next door and I have met the little one, she is a doll and sweetie pie

I know where your and Bev's heart is, you want to help and that is good Charlie, it's what we do as people when we see others not so well off and so close to our lives, I do it all the time and question myself for doing it and sometimes have regrets but it comes down to only you and Bev and your gut feeling, if it feels right then go for it, if you have questions about the Mother not taking care of business then you have to do what you know you have to do Charlie, walk away.

She needs to take care of her kids and one way is to make sure the family car is safe, if she can't see this but has the money but won't spend it on tires that should tell you everything

 

[The Nutty Teacher]

Hello Charlie,

Some decisions are best made with the head. Others are best made with the heart.
Both instruments often work well together. This is the season for decisions from the heart.
I really like Rusty's suggestion. That move might even motivate the tire store management
to also contribute something and share the warmth of charity & happiness of the season.

Respectfully,

The Nutty Teacher