Pastor bob said:
.... I have been at this for 20 years. I know how to ask permission. ...
Huh ? Didn't you say below that you had only 25% success rate ? And thus 75% failure rate ?
And given that some "yes's" came your way: I suppose it's easy to conclude from them, that therefore asking was a necessary step, right ? After all, "who can argue with a yes?" . And the fact they could grant you a "yes" or a "no", simply means their say-so was necessary. Other-wise,
how could they have "granted you permission", if that permission wasn't needed in the first place ?
If they'd said "no", then an md'r says to himself "wow, good thing I asked, otherwise I could have been arrested". If they say "yes", he says to himself "great, now I can detect". So therefore, whether the answer was "yes" or "no", the md'r walks away saying to himself "It was a good thing I asked".
But this logic always struck me as odd. Because: What other option of answer would they have given ? I mean, did you think they might answer like this:
"Gee that's an silly question. Why are you asking me ? You don't need my/our permission. If it's not dis-allowed, then it's not prohibited". Nope. Authority never answers like that. They grant you their princely yes or no. After all, your asking merely implies their say-so is needed. Lest why else would you be standing there asking them ? This subconscious implication is not lost on them. So to me, the fact of a "yes" or a "no", does not imply "Ergo: their permission was necessary".
In fact, asking actually sometimes colors the answer. What I mean is: You wouldn't be asking for permission to do something innocuous and harmless (like fly kites or read a book). Right ? Thus the mere fact someone feels they need to ask permission for something, simply casts aspursions on it. As if it's harmful, dangerous, illegal, etc... (lest why else would you be asking, if it were innocuous?)
And for those 75% "no's" you got, what do you do if, later, you find out md'ing was never a problem or issue before, for anyone ?