You are so far doing it right! If your wife starts picking out gold and silver from your good stuff, all you will have left is clad and tabs!
I believe a fellow should "think like a scavenger" especially beach hunting...all those little bits of trash tell a story of what happened in that place...you get good at what the trash is telling you, and you get on the gold...even cigarette butts tell something about the person, the brand is important to your target type of person...the amount tell you how long they were there, etc...
I will boldly say I'm a scavenger with a detector...I study the ways of other scavengers too..like the seagulls, the foxs and coyotes, how they work a beach and why they key on certain spots...how the coyotes are out at night...moving to structure quickly then working it well, they cover lots of ground but key in on certain areas, they dont waste time hunting the barren stretches, yet they are constantly on alert for any sign and moving....their tracks in the sand tell you this..because of course you seldom see them, which is the answer to your original insight about not wanting to be seen by people...thats good too!...think like a scavenger, hit that beach early am before sun up, and work it like a true scavenger does, every day..then you are gone and home before anybody is out there, take a nap, and go back and see where all the people are set up and evaluate your "targets" from a high perch, like a vulture would....you dont have to take your detector along for that...it gives a guy the true sense of the beach action...keep a sharp eye out for any changes in the waters edge...be ready to get in there...you can wade during the day and people dont bother you much, so go wade and hunt all day if you want to, and pretend you are a stingray scavenging for shrimp in the sand...again, they know where to hunt to find the shrimp, and you gotta know how to read a bottom to hunt like they do except you are after gold...... I dont like hunting the beach in the middle of the day, just super early..I think you are going to be OK Ceebee7...you are off to a good start!
If you want to quickly ramp up your skills, better get Clives new book on gold hunting ...it will make sense to you if you want to really knock down the gold..
Mud.