Don't feel bad John...you're not alone. It is nerve-wracking especially knowing that if you blow it you may lose the chance to hunt that spot forever. Firstly, confidence comes from within and will only build through practice and success. Make sure you have your "spiel" down first. That is have your request/proposition rehearsed and down pat or else nerves may cause you to forget something to say or say something you didn't want to. If you're easy going and relaxed the owner will feel more comfortable dealing with this "stranger". Never use the word "treasure" or talk about the value of finds but instead focus on the historical interest of the items you're seeking. That will often peek the homeowners interest and motivate them to WANT you to get started. If you show them a couple photos of interesting old relics and coins you've dug a lot of people have NO idea what is possibly in the ground right beneath their feet. A simpler model back-up detector that you can offer them to use is another good move. Finally I also like to offer them something in return for permission if I need to. You can offer to share the finds under any terms you wish to work out. My personal favorite is to haul a lawnmower along in my truck and offer to put in some labor for the opportunity if the situation calls for it. As I said, the most important factor IMHO is that you're relaxed, easy going and friendly. That way the owner can let go of any fear or hesitancy and actually focus on what you're saying. Once they do that they are a lot more likely to jump on board...maybe even excitedly. Hope that helps. Good luck.
